Grace.

What I’ve learned from being married for thirty years is that grace is unavoidable if you’re going to make it!

No matter how strong the attraction is, no matter how aligned you are in your goals, no matter how much you share the same values, you will find new and creative ways to annoy and offend one another.

These offenses, whether major or minor, are in some ways unavoidable.  The weight of our humanity has a way of pressing on all of us.  Our selfishness, clumsiness, and stupidity show up subtly and simultaneously at the most inopportune times.  And none of us is all right, or all wrong, all the time! We are all sinners, no?

When we were counseling before our wedding, our pastor soberly reminded us that we were both marrying sinners. And as such, we would never find ourselves closer to another sinner!  The idea was not very romantic at the time, but it was absolutely true!  The beauty, however, he said, was that we would never have a greater opportunity to experience or extend the grace that looks beyond faults and looks out for the best in and for another person!

He was absolutely right!  Today, I am particularly grateful for the wisdom in his words!  And, I have learned to see his words as the lynchpin of any healthy human relationship.

Husbands and wives.

Parents and children.

Brothers and sisters.

Friends and family.

Coworkers and colleagues.

Neighbors and associates…

We can get along, grow along, and go along, beyond trials and adversities, when we lead with grace and love is our default.  We can endure and overcome tragedies and trifles when we lead with grace!  

And while it may sound absolutely ridiculous, we learn this most profoundly when we confess that we need it as much as we need to give it! Get it?!

Lead with grace and make lover your default!

Good Morning, I love you all!

ihs,

just adam

Living…Hope.

As we rise to meet this new day, let us do so with a living hope – not the frail optimism that depends on human efforts and ingenuity – but rather the living hope God has graciously granted us through the resurrection of Jesus.

As we rise to meet this new day, we do so with resilience and faith that exceeds the simple motivation to survive.  We receive the resurrection power that causes us to thrive even under the harshest circumstances.

As we rise to meet this new day, we welcome the Spirit who stirs and quickens us with every breath and every step.  

As we rise to meet this new day, we receive the uncommon favor of our loving God, who will not allow the worst things to be the last things.

Sorrow, suffering, and death have not prevailed.  We rise – having been born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus. 

As we rise to meet this new day, let us do so with a living hope – not the frail optimism that depends on human efforts and ingenuity – but rather the living hope God has graciously granted us through the resurrection of Jesus.

As we rise to meet this new day, we do so with resilience and faith that exceeds the simple motivation to survive.  We receive the resurrection power that causes us to thrive even under the harshest circumstances.

As we rise to meet this new day, we welcome the Spirit who stirs and quickens us with every breath and every step.  

As we rise to meet this new day, we receive the uncommon favor of our loving God, who will not allow the worst things to be the last things.

Sorrow, suffering, and death have not prevailed.  We rise – having been born again to a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus. 

Provisions find us, the protection covers us, peace pervades us, God’s promises pursue us, and the presence of God persists with us.  These are our birthright and our inheritance is secure! 

As we rise to meet the new day…

In this we rejoice, though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been grieved by various trials…

1 Peter 1:6

Good Morning, I love you all!

ihs,

just adam

Growing among the Weeds…

There’s a story about a farmer who planted wheat only to discover that an enemy came and secretly sowed weeds among the good seeds.  The farmer’s servant immediately wanted to uproot the weeds but was warned against it.  He was told to leave them be until harvest time when the reapers could separate the wheat from the weeds.

The farmer understood that weeds, though annoying, wouldn’t keep the wheat from reaching maturity and that trying to uproot them too early could be potentially dangerous to the good seed that was growing. So, he left them alone until the harvest.

Though confusing and probably a bit frustrating, the weeds were left to grow alongside the wheat. Only at the harvest, would the reapers do the separating. But in the meantime, the wheat grew among the weeds…

We must learn to grow among the weeds.  

We may never find ourselves in ideal circumstances.  There’s no such thing as a pristine environment.  There’s no escaping the presence of sin in a fallen world.  While we covet and crave a perfect situation, it’s unrealistic.  

Grow anyway.  Flourish anyway.  Mature anyway. Create anyway.  Be fruitful anyway – even among the weeds!

Jesus said that while we are in the world, we must not be of it!  We must learn to grow – even among the weeds! And God, in due season will bring about a harvest and do the separating!

I do not know all the particulars of your circumstances, but I want to encourage you to grow anyway! I know you see the weeds sprouting up and spreading around you, but don’t be discouraged or distracted!  

God planted you, and it is His will that you become who you were created to be, and nothing can prevent that!  

So, focus on your own growth, and trust God to deal with these weeds!  Don’t allow your energy or attention to be diverted from God’s plans and purposes for your life!  Trust God!

Grow anyway – even among the weeds!

29 But he replied, ‘No; for in gathering the weeds you would uproot the wheat along with them. 30 Let both of them grow together until the harvest; and at harvest time I will tell the reapers, Collect the weeds first and bind them in bundles to be burned, but gather the wheat into my barn.’ ”  

(Matthew 13:29-30, NRSV)

Grow anyway!

Good Morning, I love you all!

ihs,

just adam

Truth Stands…

My mother used to say that lying was one of the worst things. She said that lying was the only thing you couldn’t defend yourself against. The surest way to incur her wrath was to lie. She may cut you some slack if you were honest, but lying was not tolerated!

She taught us that while we may guard against thieves and robbers, there’s no escaping a liar. Lies can only be endured and outlasted. There’s no point in chasing down a lie or rumor, you just have to let it run out!

I never knew my mother was such a sage. Her words return to me frequently. In these strange times, when it seems like nothing can be trusted, and so many have fallen prey to deception and lies, her words have never been truer.

The devil is still a liar. Only now, without subtlety, the enemy traipses about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. No longer skulking about in the shadows, but he is a bold-faced, loud, and blatant liar.

While many realize the lies, most make excuses for them or simply lack the will to resist. The worst among us, however, repeat these lies, and with some twisted notion believe that if they are repeated enough they will become true.

“The truth stands, and lies run out,”
my mother said.

These are the times we are living in. Too many have accepted or become apathetic about this distorted and destructive reality. We live in a time where telling the truth is so rare that it has become radical. It’s exhausting…

I can hear my mother’s words, “The truth stands, and lies run out…”

I wonder if there are any among us who have the courage or will to stand.

8 Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. 9 Stand firm against him, and be strong in your faith. Remember that your family of believers* all over the world is going through the same kind of suffering you are.
(1 Peter 5:8-9, NLT)

Good Morning, I love you all!

ihs,
just adam

The devil is a liar.

Yes, we are in the middle of an information overload. We are inundated with lies, misinformation, and bad news. The adversary’s intention is to intimidate us, to exhaust us, and to make us anxious.  The goal is to make us afraid and to wear us out with worry – to paralyze us with fear and frustration – to hamstring us with hopelessness.

The enemy is on the job daily, sowing discord and lies. But please understand this, even if a devil presents some fact, his wicked intentions are to undermine the truth! Do you hear that?

You see, when truth-telling is the supposed motivation, then love, liberation, light, and redemption become possibilities. But when the truth is weaponized by wicked intentions, then the outcomes are guilt, darkness, oppression, hatred, and separation. Thus, any such expression of ‘truth,’ becomes a lie!  

How do we know the difference?  It’s simple.  Ask, ‘Why?’  

We must learn to interrogate not only the source, but the substance of, as well as who is being served by these sayings.  Know that the devil is always a liar –  even when quoting the truth!  

Guard your heart today. Train your eyes and ears to recognize lies.  Discipline your mind to ask questions that expose deceit.  And whatever the circumstances, brothers and sisters, don’t despair – love and truth will prevail!  

The devil is subtle, but not creative.  The same old tricks we witness in the creation stories, are the same old tricks and traps from the beginning – the devil is always a liar!

Pay attention!

Now the serpent was more cunning than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made… 

Genesis 3:1a

Good Morning, I love you all!

ihs,

just adam

We will be Alright…

In times like these, the easiest thing in the world is to give in to despair and bitterness. 

It is both reasonable and understandable to be angry and frustrated at the way things are going in the world.  All is not well. But somehow it is.

 How can I say such a thing?

We are still here.  We have friends and we are a family. We are a community.  Even as we are scattered, we remain connected, and God is present with us.  Our needs are met.  We will be alright.

No matter the present crisis, this too shall pass.  As we draw near to God, brothers and sisters, and hold on to one another, we will be alright!

In Psalm 137, the writer laments the torment and suffering God’s people are enduring in Babylon.  He asks the question, ‘How can we sing in this strange land?’  

I can imagine our ancestors saying the same words.  I join in the lament as I see the suffering that persists all around.  But lament is not the last word.  While our grief is necessary and understandable, our sorrows will not endure.  God is present with us and joy comes!  Strikingly and surprisingly, stubborn hope will disrupt our despair and joy comes! We will be alright!

Psalm 138 opens with these words:

1  I give you thanks, O Lord, with my whole heart; before the gods I sing your praise;

2  I bow down toward your holy temple and give thanks to your name for your steadfast love and your faithfulness, for you have exalted above all things

your name and your word.

3  On the day I called, you answered me; my strength of soul you increased. 

Psalm 138:1-3 

Be encouraged, family! On the day we call, God answers and restores our strength! We will be alright!

Good Morning, I love you all!

ihs,

just adam

Our Daily Bread…

I have to admit, most of my stress and anxieties come from concerns about the future.  In an effort to  be responsive to any number of circumstances, I have become a saver and planner.  

More often than not, the impetus to save and plan has served my family well, but I have to admit that the toughest times we’ve faced have little to do with a lack of resources.  

In retrospect, many of the worries and concerns that drove me to work so hard and to save  – these things never happened.  So, as a result, we often have more than what we need.  We have more stuff, more money than we actually need. (I probably shouldn’t say this out loud…)

We aren’t independently wealthy, but we aren’t lacking.  Unfortunately what we don’t have is an abundance of time.   And now when I look back, I wish I would’ve been more deliberate about the time I took off, the time I could’ve spent creating memories rather than trying to secure an unknown future or prevent some unlikely calamity.

When our family was young, we struggled with resources like many young families do, but God was faithful!  Things were leaner but our lives were simpler and we were happy.  I remember the days of buying groceries a day at a time, sitting at our small table and blessing our meals, and being content.  I remember the way we used to pray:

Give us this day our daily bread…’

Matthew 6:11

Those were some sweet days, sweeter than I realized. I am only saddened by my latent realization.  But I will do better, one day at a time…

Good Morning, I love you all!

ihs,

just adam

Take the Step…

Take the Step…

Four years ago, I walked away from a job I had been on for twenty-three years.   I was part of an organization that was growing and as it grew I prospered.  I had the best team and worked with some of the best people I have ever known. I am grateful for my time there.

But, after about twenty years the work environment changed.  The people who built the company began to retire or leave. The leadership and ownership of the company changed and things got really bad. I was put in an ethical dilemma. And when I protested, I went from being respected and valued to being isolated and ignored. In an attempt to do what was right for the organization while preserving my integrity and protecting my team, I paid a heavy price.  And, I probably stayed too long.  

Needless to say, things got increasingly hostile.  And while the quality of my work could never be challenged, I was routinely disrespected.  At about that time, I started hearing from recruiters and headhunters about jobs that I hadn’t even applied for.

One day after a particularly rough week, my wife looked at me and said, ‘If they offer you a job, you need to take it…’ This was not Job’s wife speaking – I could hear the voice of the Spirit.

The job offers came, and unsurprisingly, I ended up better off. While I lamented leaving my team and felt like I was somehow letting them down, my fears and anxieties were unfounded and I ended up in a good place.  That was four years ago, today!

God is faithful. God is a provider.  God is more than a resource. God is the source of my supply. 

Things around us are going to change. How we do things will change.  Who comes and who goes with us will change. Which way we go may change… But, God is faithful!  God takes care of God’s own.  

I was not expecting to change jobs after so many years. I planned to retire from that place.  I had been a part of building something.  I had a great team.  But, it was time to go! 

When things get tight around us and uncomfortable, and maybe even downright hostile; this is growing season.  When things become unhealthy and your integrity is being challenged; this is a going season! 

When you are encountering all these things all at once – this is a knowing season! 

Take heed… Pray and ask God about where you are, where you should go, and when.  And then, when you can hear God clearly – take the step

God will take care of us!

Good Morning, I love you all!

ihs,

just adam

Do the Right Thing…

There are legitimate occasions when confusion about how to move forward should cause us to slow down.

When we are in a new place and don’t quite know our way around, speeding is ill-advised.

When we’re cooking a new recipe, rushing and improvising may not be such a good idea.

When we’re entering a new relationship, being cautious may be wise. There’s some veracity to the saying, ‘fools rush in.’

But when we’ve examined our hearts , after we’ve asked for help, and heard from the LORD, we must accept guidance, and then ACT on what we know to be right.

While we may not be able to see or control all of the outcomes, we can not allow the ‘paralysis of analysis,’ cause us to rationalize our disobedience.

Being patient with others, gracious, generous, loving, and polite are always appropriate. Even in challenging and holding one another accountable – as Christians we do so with a grace that affirms dignity. When we have to approach sensitive matters, and even while our emotions run hot and our anger may be justifiable – we do not sin!

Even when our critique is valid and our protest is well-founded and the truth is uncomfortable – we must strive to do what is right. When we don’t, in a moment we slide from being a victim into becoming an offender.

Many would call it weakness to lead with love and grace when one is confronted with hatefulness and cruelty – but this is the cross we willingly bear as followers of Jesus.

In the words of MLK, ‘the time is always right to do what is right…’

James writes,

Therefore, to him who knows to do good and does not do it, to him it is sin.

James 4:17

In the words of the Mayor in Spike Lee’s, Do the Right Thing, ‘Mookie… always do the right thing!’

For you and me, that means we lead with grace, we lead with generosity, we lead with compassion and mercy; we lead with love!

Good Morning, I love you all!

ihs,

just adam

Full of Surprises?

The saying, ‘life is full of surprises’ is a truly enigmatic adage that’s been passed down through the years.

On the one hand, nature is unpredictable and mysterious.  But with another set of eyes things are very orderly and predictable.

On one hand human beings are mysterious but on the other hand we are rather ordinary and unremarkable.  

The science and the mechanics that make life possible are awe-inspiring and miraculous.  But human behavior is often obvious and disappointingly ordinary.

There is, in my opinion, one major exception that is truly marvelous.

The human tendency toward greed and selfishness is boring and mundane – the cause of wars, violence, struggles, and unnecessary suffering. We have enough of that, huh?   While the capacity to love and be loved despite such tendencies is as amazing as life itself.

Our humanity is an equalizer.  We are all basically the same – driven (though in differing degrees) by hunger, thirst, and desire.  But, the ability to subvert our primal urges in the name of love bears the markings of a divine impetus.

Love makes us exceptional.  To choose love – to give and to receive love – this makes us extraordinary.

Love, in a world full of hatred and brutality, violence and vitriol, fills our lives with surprise – the capacity for joy amid sorrow, comfort through grief, grace under fire, and resilience in the midst of uncertainty.  

Life is indeed ‘full of surprises,’ when we are led by and lead with love.

So today, I hope we will choose love.  Today, I hope we will abandon the mundane human tendencies that create destructive suffering and yield to the creative power of love.

Yes, love is a risky endeavor, but it is worth it!  It is the noblest and most exciting adventure to which we might give ourselves. 

Indeed, life is ‘full of surprises,’ especially when we are led, and lead with love!

7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. 8 Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. 

1 John 4:7-8

Good Morning, I love you all!

ihs,

just adam